My hope is that Welcome to Holland will help you find some peace on this rocky road.
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability – to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel.
The book is best-selling author, Lori Gottlieb; a book in which she talks about her life as a therapist, her own therapy, and life in general.
In a chapter titled “Welcome to Holland, “Gottlieb includes an essay by the same name–“Welcome to Holland”–written by Emily Perl Kingsley, the parent of a child with Down syndrome.
There is disbelief and overwhelming dismay at the prospect of facing a new, uncertain future.
Alone in this new place, the stunned tourist becomes prepared out of necessity.Emily Perl Kingsley is a writer who joined the Sesame Street team in 1970 and has been writing for the show ever since.She is well-known for her essay, Welcome to Holland , about having a child with a disability.It’s like listening to friends chat about their journeys intertwined with sage advice from medical professionals. Yesterday a warrior woman to the truest extent of that word was on and spoke about her battle with infertility that lead her to adoption.After 7 failed IVF cycles she sought another route to make her family, something I admire and am keeping an open mind to as well.It’s like this……When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip – to Italy. In 1974, Emily Perl Kingsley and her husband welcomed a son, Jason, into the world. if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things . Lori Gottlieb adds an additional comment later in the chapter: “(Truth is) ‘we’re all in Holland, because most people don’t have lives that go exactly as planned.'” Like Lori Gottlieb, we think about ”Talking to Someone,” but with one goal in mind: CHANGE! All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy.’ But there’s been a change in the flight plan. The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine, and disease. But after you’ve been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around .